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All of us will experience times of depression in our lives, that is just part of living. I hope these thoughts of mine helps those of you like me who can feel depressed even when we should be celebrating.
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Have you ever heard, “Are you letting emotions get the best of you?”
I don't know about you but throughout my life my emotions have gotten me in lots of trouble. More than getting me into trouble—I have become depressed.
You would think that the way we do better is to become more logical. Well the problem with that if we take it to an extreme is to become more like Spock from Star Trek or maybe Shelton from the Big Bang Theory. In either of these characters we see how often those who try and be logical all the time actually make a lot of matters worse as well.
Dale Carnegie wrote, “We are persuaded by reason, but we are moved by emotion. Several studies conclude that up to 90 percent of the decisions we make are based on emotion. We use logic to justify our actions to ourselves and others.”
We also tend to embrace ideas that support our beliefs and rebuff those that challenge them.
We make a lot of decisions based on our gut feelings. Malcolm Gladwell in his book “Blink” talks about how quickly we judge people in less than a few seconds when we first meet them. This is actually an animal instinct that helps us survive. For the most part this gut feeling is something we learn to trust and encouraged to do by others—“Trust your gut instinct,” we are told.
Putting a face on it changes things
If you are not careful you can be labeled as stubborn. You get too set in your ways and your opinions.
I recommend to anyone struggling with their emotions that one of the best things you can do is to have a cross-cultural experience. I recommend going to another country and hold your condemning comments while you travel. Just go and experience the other culture.
The best way I have experienced is to go with a nonprofit and help on a project. One cool thing to do is just do an exchange. Have a foreign student stay with you and then go to their country and stay there.
I remember guys in our church went downtown Atlanta to help at a homeless shelter. I remember one of the guys being blown away at how many of the homeless had full-time jobs. He helped by waking them up at 5:00 am to get ready to go to work.
These guys put a face on homelessness for this guy. Sure there are still some pretty lazy guys that might be homeless, but he found out that more than 50% of the Atlanta homeless worked.
I grew up listening to vinyl records. Every once in a while the needle could get stuck and skip as we used to say. There was a small defect in the groove of the record causing the record to play in a loop. If no one did anything this would go on forever playing in a loop.
I remember even calling the local radio station to tell them their record was skipping.
Often I would go and pickup the needle and move it to play the rest of the record. That simple outside action on the record player is what cross-culture experience can do for you emotionally.
I have shared over time stories that I have covered around the world. Most recently I shared stories from Lisbon, Portugal. Next month I am going to Honduras to capture more stories.
Tip for Storyteller
Remember “We are persuaded by reason, but we are moved by emotion.” If you want to connect with your audience the best way to do that is through emotions. One of the best ways to capture emotions is through the still photograph.
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Are you stuck emotionally? One of the best ways to battle this is to focus on others. Granted if you cannot do this there is a good reason to seek help. I know that professional counselors can make a huge difference. There are times that you might need help through drugs that can help get your body back in balance. Just like a diabetes patient takes medication to stay alive, people suffering from clinical depression can regain their life through medication and counseling.
Stay tuned for stories from Honduras.